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“I just want to run around yelling F**K!”

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Apr 092016
 

I feel like a crazy person. I can’t stop eating. I’m getting fat. I just want to run around yelling F**K!

Don’t let this person be you. Seriously, just don’t. And you know it doesn’t have to be. In nineteen years, I have heard it all.

Compare that to this:

$T2eC16hHJHEE9ny2tlu(BQnKeQBC+!~~48_35“I cannot believe how easy it is not to smoke, I just do not have any urge to smoke. Even had some drinks with (smoking) friends Monday evening, I think you might have a few more clients soon.

I think this is it, not a smoker anymore, after 32 years!                           

Thank you and regards,

Hannes E.”

So you have tried to quit and found it difficult. Perhaps you know someone who quit and struggled. Maybe you know someone who quit easily, cold turkey and has never smoked again.

What is the difference between all these people and you? Here is what you need to know, quoted from Wikipedia with sources:

Nicotine dependence involves aspects of both psychological dependence and physical dependence, since discontinuation of extended use has been shown to produce both affective (e.g., anxiety, irritability, craving, anhedonia) and somatic (mild motor dysfunctions such as tremor) withdrawal symptoms.[1]

These are the two concepts that will change everything for you right here:
so·mat·ic
  1. of or relating to the body, especially as distinct from the mind.
So, science is telling us that the WORST thing that will happen, physically, from nicotine withdrawal is a MILD motor dysfunction, like a tremor. That is it. Yes, really. Physically this is basically it.
I know what you are thinking, this didn’t happen to me, I was angry and frustrated and I was so hungry, blah, blah, blah
That is 100% completely true, I believe you. That’s because of:

af·fec·tive

  1. relating to moods, feelings, and attitudes.
    “affective disorders”
What if I told you, I know of a way to uplift your mood, change your feelings and shift your attitudes, using techniques refined in my time as a smoking cessation specialist?
On top of that, I will show you how to create new healthy habits from the old ones.
Want to quit smoking and lose weight? Check mark
What if I told you, that even if you thought it was difficult and you did the techniques, you would then find it easy. All you would have to do is, some work though. You can’t expect to do nothing to combat years worth of training.
And if you were unsuccessful at the first attempt you would need to do it again. And that is what separates success in business and life.

 

Nicotine Replacement Therapy (NRT) Patch, gum or inhaler?

This Cochrane Review study done in 1996 and updated in November, 2007, found that nicotine replacement therapies like the patch, gum or inhaler increased chances of quitting by 50% to 70%.

Bear in mind that with no program, only 5% of quitters are still smoke free at the end of 12 months. A 50% increase in the quit rate would mean that 7.5% of those using NRT were successful after 12 months. Source: http://www.tobaccofree.org/quitlinks.htm

20 ACTIONS OF THE MENTALLY STRONG:

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Jan 172014
 

These actions are those that the mentally strong avoid, and that we should consider adapting as our own:

1. Dwelling On The Past

Mentally strong individuals focus on the present moment and on the near future. They understand that the past is out of our control and the far future is about as predictable as the weather this winter.

2. Remaining In Their Comfort Zone

The comfort zone is a dangerous place, a dark abyss where anyone who remains there for too long loses his or herself entirely. Staying within your comfort zone is giving up on life.

3. Not Listening To The Opinions Of Others

Only the foolish believe themselves to be sufficient in all regards. When it comes to brainstorming, ideas can’t so much be forced as they can be caught. A good idea is a good idea, regardless of whether or not you came up with it. Don’t let your ego get the better of you; if someone has great advice to give, take it.

4. Avoiding Change

What the mentally strong understand that the mentally weak do not is that change is unavoidable. Trying to avoid the inevitable is pointless. Therefore, trying to avoid change is pointless; it’s a mere waste of time and energy.

5. Keeping A Closed Mind

You don’t know everything. Even the things you believe yourself to know are likely to not be entirely true. If you keep a closed mind, you are preventing yourself from learning new material. If you stop learning, you stop living.

6. Letting Others Make Decisions For Them

Only you should be making your own decisions; you can’t allow others to make them for you. All this does is shift the responsibility from you to someone else, but the only person failing in the end is you. If you don’t have the courage to fail, then you don’t have the courage to succeed.

7. Getting Jealous Over The Successes Of Others

When others succeed, you should be happy. If they can do it, so can you. The success of others does not, in any way, lessen the chances of you succeeding. If anything, it should motivate you to keep pushing forward.

8. Thinking About The High Possibility Of Failure

Our thoughts control our perspective; our perspective controls our results. The mentally strong understand this and use this to their advantage. There’s always the chance you may fail, but as long as there is the chance you may succeed, it’s worth trying.

9. Feeling Sorry For Themselves

Sh*t happens. Life can be hard. People get hurt; others die. Life isn’t all roses and butterflies. You will fall off that horse again and again and again. The question is, are you strong enough to keep getting back on it?

10. Focusing On Their Weaknesses

Although working on our weaknesses does have its benefits, it’s more important to focus on banking on our strengths. The most well-rounded person is not the person that gets the furthest in life. Being average in all regards makes you average. However, mastering a certain skillset or trait will allow you to beat the competition with less effort.

11. Trying To Please People

A job well done is a job well done, no matter who is judging the final product. You can’t please everybody, but you can always manage to do your very best.

12. Blaming Themselves For Things Outside Their Control

The mentally strong know the things they can control, understand the things they cannot control, and avoid even thinking about that which is completely out of their hands.

13. Being Impatient

Patience isn’t just a virtue; it is the virtue. Most people don’t fail because they aren’t good enough, or aren’t capable of winning or succeeding. Most people fail because they are impatient and give up before their time has come.

14. Being Misunderstood

Communication is key in any properly functioning system. When it comes to people, things get a bit more complicated. Simply stating information is never enough; if the receiving party misunderstands you, your message is not being properly relayed. The mentally strong do their best to be understood and have the patience to clear up misunderstandings.

15. Feeling Like You’re Owed

You aren’t owed anything in life. You were born; the rest is up to you. Life doesn’t owe you anything. Others don’t owe you anything. If you want something in life, you only owe it to yourself to go out and get it. In life, there are no handouts.

16. Repeating Mistakes

Make a mistake once, okay. Make a mistake twice… not so okay. Make the same mistake a third time, you may need to consider giving up alcohol and drugs. You’re either stupid or permanently high.

17. Giving Into Their Fears

The world can be a scary place. Some things frighten us with good cause, but most of our fears are illogical. If you know that you want to try something, try it. If you’re scared, then understand that being scared of failing must mean that succeeding means a whole lot to you.

18. Acting Without Calculating

The mentally strong know better than to act before completely understanding the situation at hand. If you have time to ponder over something and cover all your bases, then do so. Not doing so is pure laziness.

19. Refusing Help From Others

You’re not Superman; you can’t do it all. Even if you can, why should you? If others are offering to help, let them help. Be social. Listen to their ideas and watch how they do things. You may learn something. If not, then you can teach them something and do what humans are meant to do: socialize.

20. Throwing In The Towel

The biggest weakness in all of humanity is giving up — calling it quits, throwing in the towel. The mentally strong go about things in such a way. Only do things if they are important to you; forget the things that aren’t important to you. If they’re important to you, then pursue them until you succeed. No exceptions, ever.

 

FROM: http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/20-things-that-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/

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